Letting go of Pain from a Conflict

Let’s be real; Conflict can bring up some deep Pain and associated subconscious triggers -- I’m not referring to pain that you can put a band-aid on or have a doctor fix.

I'm talking about the deep-rooted and “psycho-spiritual” Pain that makes one feel intense emotional responses triggered by a Conflict.

When we are faced with a Conflict, the uprooting of such underlying Pain can compound our situation.

Handling the Conflict itself is one thing, and resolving a Conflict that has an added layer of psycho-spiritual Pain is another, which makes it a more challenging endeavor.

Where does the Pain come from? It can be from a childhood wound surrounding the subject-matter, not aligning with a core value, spiritual origins, a limiting belief that is being challenged, among other possible origins.

We can learn & transform a great deal if we take time to learn from such Pain, plus it will make solving the overlying Conflict much simpler.

If it involves another person that’s triggering it, then what are you projecting?

If it involves a core value or spiritual origin, how can you tap into what you feel is lacking or missing?

If it involves a limiting belief, how can you re-frame it or renew your perspective?

Here is a simple process that may be useful in letting go of Pain that may be triggered during a Conflict you experience in the future:

1) Take the time to create space to FEEL and experience what has arisen

2) Be mindful that this too shall pass and do not identify with the Pain

3) Visualize yourself letting go of the Pain in whatever form that takes for you

4) Create a positive Affirmation of what the Lesson(s) may be

5) Take some deep breaths and thank yourself for having the strength to honor the Lessons

Once you do the work of releasing Pain & subconscious triggers, then the resolution of the overlying Conflict will be straight-forward & decoupled from the other baggage you may have been carrying that was compounding the situation.

In having clients go through the deep work of “letting go,” there was an ease realized in the dispute resolution process resulting in comprehensive resolutions & optimal participant satisfaction. So, let go & resolution will flow!